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		<title>By: Walter</title>
		<link>http://www.taneyism.com/2009/08/hold-on-or-let-go/comment-page-1/#comment-105</link>
		<dc:creator>Walter</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Sep 2009 01:23:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I agree with smart decision. But oftentimes, I do find it hard to detach myself from the situation and see it from a third person view. I need to practice to develop this kind of approach because I know it&#039;s benefits. Right know I&#039;m half way, emotions really come in the way; still, I do my best. :-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I agree with smart decision. But oftentimes, I do find it hard to detach myself from the situation and see it from a third person view. I need to practice to develop this kind of approach because I know it&#8217;s benefits. Right know I&#8217;m half way, emotions really come in the way; still, I do my best. <img src='http://www.taneyism.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: taney</title>
		<link>http://www.taneyism.com/2009/08/hold-on-or-let-go/comment-page-1/#comment-103</link>
		<dc:creator>taney</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 14 Sep 2009 17:40:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Nancy:

&quot;Letting go&quot; can be considered a form of giving up, but sometimes it can be considered gaining the strength and confidence to achieve even greater things! I&#039;m not the type of person to be giving up at it. I&#039;m usually very persistent, but you have to understand that in certain situations, it can be a downfall. You have to weigh in all the pros and cons. I agree in being persistent and working to chase your dreams, but keep in mind that it&#039;s not always about working hard, but more about working smart. You cannot get blinded when the right opportunities come.

I was talking to my mom about how to be more powerful and successful as you age. To me, I know that if you are able to utilize and be aware of your strengths and weaknesses as you age, you will become unstoppable. I know as we age, we become slower and lose our youthful physique, but we build wisdom, knowledge, and life experiences that we&#039;re able to integrate into our daily lives, which leads to less stress, more joy and freedom, and sometimes even more excitement. Majority of the time that we become angry, hurt, mad, annoyed, and sad is due to how someone responded to us with certain words or phrases but it&#039;s rarely any physical harm. They are not causing these feelings and emotions but rather our conditioned responses to these words and this can be changed. Once you&#039;re able to work with that, you will be almost unstoppable! On the playground, we learned the saying, &quot;sticks and stones may break my bones, but words never will!&quot; When we are able to live by the saying again. We won&#039;t hurt ourselves anymore, but the one&#039;s trying to hurt us will get hurt! Think about that one! (=

I agree that our generation may have its flaws, but that doesn&#039;t mean I have to be like them and quite frankly, everyone has flaws. The question is: Are we going to change and correct these flaws? 

I think it can be a tough world, but it doesn&#039;t have to be as bad as it&#039;s portrayed. With the right attitude, mindset, and network the view of the job market changes. I&#039;m still working at it and I&#039;m not giving up! (;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Nancy:</p>
<p>&#8220;Letting go&#8221; can be considered a form of giving up, but sometimes it can be considered gaining the strength and confidence to achieve even greater things! I&#8217;m not the type of person to be giving up at it. I&#8217;m usually very persistent, but you have to understand that in certain situations, it can be a downfall. You have to weigh in all the pros and cons. I agree in being persistent and working to chase your dreams, but keep in mind that it&#8217;s not always about working hard, but more about working smart. You cannot get blinded when the right opportunities come.</p>
<p>I was talking to my mom about how to be more powerful and successful as you age. To me, I know that if you are able to utilize and be aware of your strengths and weaknesses as you age, you will become unstoppable. I know as we age, we become slower and lose our youthful physique, but we build wisdom, knowledge, and life experiences that we&#8217;re able to integrate into our daily lives, which leads to less stress, more joy and freedom, and sometimes even more excitement. Majority of the time that we become angry, hurt, mad, annoyed, and sad is due to how someone responded to us with certain words or phrases but it&#8217;s rarely any physical harm. They are not causing these feelings and emotions but rather our conditioned responses to these words and this can be changed. Once you&#8217;re able to work with that, you will be almost unstoppable! On the playground, we learned the saying, &#8220;sticks and stones may break my bones, but words never will!&#8221; When we are able to live by the saying again. We won&#8217;t hurt ourselves anymore, but the one&#8217;s trying to hurt us will get hurt! Think about that one! (=</p>
<p>I agree that our generation may have its flaws, but that doesn&#8217;t mean I have to be like them and quite frankly, everyone has flaws. The question is: Are we going to change and correct these flaws? </p>
<p>I think it can be a tough world, but it doesn&#8217;t have to be as bad as it&#8217;s portrayed. With the right attitude, mindset, and network the view of the job market changes. I&#8217;m still working at it and I&#8217;m not giving up! (;</p>
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		<title>By: Nancy</title>
		<link>http://www.taneyism.com/2009/08/hold-on-or-let-go/comment-page-1/#comment-100</link>
		<dc:creator>Nancy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Sep 2009 01:45:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Well, would you agree that deciding to &quot; let go&quot; is the same as giving up? I personally think you should never let go. Never let go and never, never, give up ( Winston Churchill ). Unless you know darn well that you&#039;ve gave it 110%.

How well you live your life when your an aged man/women, is determined by the decisions you&#039;ve made in life. When I&#039;m of age, it certainly is a very liberating feeling to be able to sit on my rocking chair and reflect on my life and to truly experience bliss.  That&#039;s why I think it&#039;s crucial for you to constantly revisit the decisions you&#039;ve made in life and to make sure that it was a great one. 

I also wanted to comment that, often times people are just flat out impractical and indecisive about careers, relationships, family, investments. That&#039;s what contributed to our sub-prime mess right? Hence, taking on mortgage they cannot afford. I struggle w/ this weakness quite often. And I&#039;m trying to put the blame on my(our) upbringing. It almost seems like everything is at our fingertips, we have too many options. We feel the confidence to pursue everything and achieve anything. We, the generation Y specifically, are overly ambitious and overly demanding and incredibly spoiled. Agree Taney? We are going to be a generation of mediocracy Taney!!! 

Btw, job security is a thing of the past. When presented w/ a new job offer, you TAKE IT and RUN! ( I work in finance, it&#039;s brutal out there nowadays ) =)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well, would you agree that deciding to &#8221; let go&#8221; is the same as giving up? I personally think you should never let go. Never let go and never, never, give up ( Winston Churchill ). Unless you know darn well that you&#8217;ve gave it 110%.</p>
<p>How well you live your life when your an aged man/women, is determined by the decisions you&#8217;ve made in life. When I&#8217;m of age, it certainly is a very liberating feeling to be able to sit on my rocking chair and reflect on my life and to truly experience bliss.  That&#8217;s why I think it&#8217;s crucial for you to constantly revisit the decisions you&#8217;ve made in life and to make sure that it was a great one. </p>
<p>I also wanted to comment that, often times people are just flat out impractical and indecisive about careers, relationships, family, investments. That&#8217;s what contributed to our sub-prime mess right? Hence, taking on mortgage they cannot afford. I struggle w/ this weakness quite often. And I&#8217;m trying to put the blame on my(our) upbringing. It almost seems like everything is at our fingertips, we have too many options. We feel the confidence to pursue everything and achieve anything. We, the generation Y specifically, are overly ambitious and overly demanding and incredibly spoiled. Agree Taney? We are going to be a generation of mediocracy Taney!!! </p>
<p>Btw, job security is a thing of the past. When presented w/ a new job offer, you TAKE IT and RUN! ( I work in finance, it&#8217;s brutal out there nowadays ) =)</p>
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		<title>By: taney</title>
		<link>http://www.taneyism.com/2009/08/hold-on-or-let-go/comment-page-1/#comment-91</link>
		<dc:creator>taney</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 23 Aug 2009 06:43:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Raymond:

Thanks soo much for another insightful comment! Your distinction of &#039;ideal&#039; and &#039;real&#039; makes great sense. I like to think of it as being realistic or wishful thinking. It&#039;s nice to have positive outlooks in life, but there&#039;s always a line you have to draw. There&#039;s pessimists, realists, optimists, and wishful thinkers. Like everything else in life, it&#039;s always beneficial to reach some sort of middle ground. I&#039;m an optimistic person myself and it might work for me, but not others. I believe that you should always try to make yourself feel good in this world, which helps you through the rough and smooth transitions in life. You should also try to stay practical and true to yourself.

I totally agree with you on being your ideal self; taking steps to becoming a better &#039;you&#039;.  

Thanks again for dropping by! I always enjoy your insights and perspectives!


@Supernet33:

Thank You Steve!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Raymond:</p>
<p>Thanks soo much for another insightful comment! Your distinction of &#8216;ideal&#8217; and &#8216;real&#8217; makes great sense. I like to think of it as being realistic or wishful thinking. It&#8217;s nice to have positive outlooks in life, but there&#8217;s always a line you have to draw. There&#8217;s pessimists, realists, optimists, and wishful thinkers. Like everything else in life, it&#8217;s always beneficial to reach some sort of middle ground. I&#8217;m an optimistic person myself and it might work for me, but not others. I believe that you should always try to make yourself feel good in this world, which helps you through the rough and smooth transitions in life. You should also try to stay practical and true to yourself.</p>
<p>I totally agree with you on being your ideal self; taking steps to becoming a better &#8216;you&#8217;.  </p>
<p>Thanks again for dropping by! I always enjoy your insights and perspectives!</p>
<p>@Supernet33:</p>
<p>Thank You Steve!</p>
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		<title>By: Supernet33</title>
		<link>http://www.taneyism.com/2009/08/hold-on-or-let-go/comment-page-1/#comment-90</link>
		<dc:creator>Supernet33</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:29:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Very well written !</description>
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		<title>By: Raymond</title>
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		<dc:creator>Raymond</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Aug 2009 06:54:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The ideal ego would go on a head on collision course onto becoming the best at what it does whether resulting in victory or crash and burn.  Most times what you think is ideal isn&#039;t what&#039;s real.  That&#039;s why sometimes people call their ideal job their dream job.  Almost like an illusion or figment of their imagination, selling themselves short.  Whether to hold on or let go, the questions behind that question would be how much stamina do you have, how much pain can you possibly take, and how F&#039;in bad do you want it.  If you hold on, then apparently you didn&#039;t want it that bad.  Be strong.  Be true to yourself.  The only idol you should have is your ideal self.  Your idol shouldn&#039;t be a rock star or movie star, or any star.  Your idol should be your ideal self.  Look up to this ideal person and you will know whether to hold on or let go.  Stay true to yourself.  Now think about how close is the pathway to you and your ideal self.  Are you the type to hold on or let go?  As Taney said, I too cannot give you the answers to these questions.  As vast as your dreams are, you still have to wake up everyday and look yourself in the mirror and accept who you are.  Take a good look at yourself, you are the answer to your questions because at the end of the day its your life, not ours.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The ideal ego would go on a head on collision course onto becoming the best at what it does whether resulting in victory or crash and burn.  Most times what you think is ideal isn&#8217;t what&#8217;s real.  That&#8217;s why sometimes people call their ideal job their dream job.  Almost like an illusion or figment of their imagination, selling themselves short.  Whether to hold on or let go, the questions behind that question would be how much stamina do you have, how much pain can you possibly take, and how F&#8217;in bad do you want it.  If you hold on, then apparently you didn&#8217;t want it that bad.  Be strong.  Be true to yourself.  The only idol you should have is your ideal self.  Your idol shouldn&#8217;t be a rock star or movie star, or any star.  Your idol should be your ideal self.  Look up to this ideal person and you will know whether to hold on or let go.  Stay true to yourself.  Now think about how close is the pathway to you and your ideal self.  Are you the type to hold on or let go?  As Taney said, I too cannot give you the answers to these questions.  As vast as your dreams are, you still have to wake up everyday and look yourself in the mirror and accept who you are.  Take a good look at yourself, you are the answer to your questions because at the end of the day its your life, not ours.</p>
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