Comments on: Guiding Through Change http://www.taneyism.com/2009/07/guiding-through-change/ Be Aware and In Control! Tue, 22 Sep 2009 01:23:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: taney http://www.taneyism.com/2009/07/guiding-through-change/comment-page-1/#comment-78 taney Tue, 28 Jul 2009 06:49:18 +0000 http://www.taneyism.com/?p=310#comment-78 Hi Nancy! Thanks so much for dropping by! That’s a great perspective! I never looked at it in terms of our country. We do live in a capitalistic society, which is based on competition. For quite a while competition has led us to room for improvement, but the world is evolving and changing into a different state. We need to learn to utilize our resources and work together to improve the the progress of our country and economy. It becomes all political. As a country, the US strives hard to be the International Superpower. I totally agree with you! Team work and unity will be the key to the survival our human existence. Thanks for the comments! I appreciate it! Hi Nancy! Thanks so much for dropping by!

That’s a great perspective! I never looked at it in terms of our country. We do live in a capitalistic society, which is based on competition. For quite a while competition has led us to room for improvement, but the world is evolving and changing into a different state. We need to learn to utilize our resources and work together to improve the the progress of our country and economy. It becomes all political. As a country, the US strives hard to be the International Superpower.

I totally agree with you! Team work and unity will be the key to the survival our human existence. Thanks for the comments! I appreciate it!

]]> By: Nancy http://www.taneyism.com/2009/07/guiding-through-change/comment-page-1/#comment-76 Nancy Tue, 28 Jul 2009 06:31:50 +0000 http://www.taneyism.com/?p=310#comment-76 Hi Taney, I appreciate the fact that you are taking the time and effort out to share and engage on topics that we all seem to struggle with, daily. I just wanted to bring up a quick thought. If you view this in a broader perspective, say the culture of the United States. We are a very individualistic society. We seem to prefer to overcome our obstacles alone, we always seem to have something to prove. We seldom seek help from others, and if we do, we rarely act upon it. This also makes us a very competitive society. If we only work in a team-approach to tackle problems both at work and at home, I think we can achieve great and wonderful things. ** Nancy RHS alum 01' Hi Taney, I appreciate the fact that you are taking the time and effort out to share and engage on topics that we all seem to struggle with, daily. I just wanted to bring up a quick thought. If you view this in a broader perspective, say the culture of the United States. We are a very individualistic society. We seem to prefer to overcome our obstacles alone, we always seem to have something to prove. We seldom seek help from others, and if we do, we rarely act upon it. This also makes us a very competitive society. If we only work in a team-approach to tackle problems both at work and at home, I think we can achieve great and wonderful things. ** Nancy RHS alum 01′

]]> By: taney http://www.taneyism.com/2009/07/guiding-through-change/comment-page-1/#comment-37 taney Sun, 26 Jul 2009 02:18:22 +0000 http://www.taneyism.com/?p=310#comment-37 @Raymond, @Flora, @Evelyn: Thanks so much for the comments! I truly appreciate all feedback. It helps me see in different perspectives and definitely opens me up to new ideas. I believe expression of thoughts helps us understand each other as human beings. @Mahalaxmi T R: Hi Mahalaxmi! Thanks so much for dropping by! I never really looked at it from the Zen perspective. You raise a good point there: to use other ways to help the person seek their own solution. I think that's truly a great way to help someone since you're letting them solve their own problems, yet advising in a way that's easy to accept. I like it! Thanks for sharing! (= @Raymond, @Flora, @Evelyn:
Thanks so much for the comments! I truly appreciate all feedback. It helps me see in different perspectives and definitely opens me up to new ideas. I believe expression of thoughts helps us understand each other as human beings.

@Mahalaxmi T R:
Hi Mahalaxmi! Thanks so much for dropping by! I never really looked at it from the Zen perspective. You raise a good point there: to use other ways to help the person seek their own solution. I think that’s truly a great way to help someone since you’re letting them solve their own problems, yet advising in a way that’s easy to accept. I like it! Thanks for sharing! (=

]]> By: Mahalaxmi T R http://www.taneyism.com/2009/07/guiding-through-change/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Mahalaxmi T R Sun, 26 Jul 2009 02:05:15 +0000 http://www.taneyism.com/?p=310#comment-36 Advising and being advised is a very common thing that we face in our day-to-day life. Whenever I am advised by someone, I feel boring but make my mind to patiently hear them. End of my day, I use to recollect them, validate it and follow if they are right (but to my perception). But I have also later observed the same advices in different perceptions which really gave different meaning too. As Raymond said, in my experience too, the advices thought were interpreted as per my own perception, I have faced situations to reinterpret them with different one for I really felt as an Eye opener. Advising is easy..being advised is very hard..this is why Zen monks do not advice instead they question us and leave us to answer our self. The secret is that they put the right question to the right person. Other best way to advices is to say stories that contain the moral what you are trying to advice. It is like adding sweet to a medicine. Advising and being advised is a very common thing that we face in our day-to-day life. Whenever I am advised by someone, I feel boring but make my mind to patiently hear them. End of my day, I use to recollect them, validate it and follow if they are right (but to my perception). But I have also later observed the same advices in different perceptions which really gave different meaning too.

As Raymond said, in my experience too, the advices thought were interpreted as per my own perception, I have faced situations to reinterpret them with different one for I really felt as an Eye opener.

Advising is easy..being advised is very hard..this is why Zen monks do not advice instead they question us and leave us to answer our self. The secret is that they put the right question to the right person. Other best way to advices is to say stories that contain the moral what you are trying to advice. It is like adding sweet to a medicine.

]]> By: Evelyn Lim http://www.taneyism.com/2009/07/guiding-through-change/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Evelyn Lim Wed, 22 Jul 2009 07:38:08 +0000 http://www.taneyism.com/?p=310#comment-33 I like the Carl Jung's quote that you shared "“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves". Indeed it is true. Anything that happens in our environment to which we are reacting negatively is a reflection of our inner minds. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and inspiring others to make positive changes. I like the Carl Jung’s quote that you shared ““Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves”. Indeed it is true. Anything that happens in our environment to which we are reacting negatively is a reflection of our inner minds.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and inspiring others to make positive changes.

]]> By: Flora Wong http://www.taneyism.com/2009/07/guiding-through-change/comment-page-1/#comment-31 Flora Wong Wed, 22 Jul 2009 05:31:39 +0000 http://www.taneyism.com/?p=310#comment-31 I love this quote.... "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." I truly believe you cannot help a person unless they want to be helped. If the person doesn't want to hear it- why should they, right? Just like most people in this world, we all play both sides, giving and receiving. I have at least one friend who falls into your list of... shall I call them, advisors? My favorite is the Mr./Mrs. Right or as I like to call it 'people with know it all syndrome' Why is it that the 'misunderstanding person' is the most common? Do we humans really lack paying attention to what's really going on? Do we choose not to care? I assume this changes the persons attitude towards the advice being given to them and they become defensive. Taney, we all need to vent occasionally and consult others for advice. What is, or how is the best way to seek GOOD help without interacting with these advisors? Especially, when you actually WANT to be helped from others. Can I just clone you and keep him as a pet? lol Thanks Taney. Your "LALALALALA" buddy, Flora I love this quote…. “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”

I truly believe you cannot help a person unless they want to be helped. If the person doesn’t want to hear it- why should they, right? Just like most people in this world, we all play both sides, giving and receiving. I have at least one friend who falls into your list of… shall I call them, advisors? My favorite is the Mr./Mrs. Right or as I like to call it ‘people with know it all syndrome’

Why is it that the ‘misunderstanding person’ is the most common? Do we humans really lack paying attention to what’s really going on? Do we choose not to care? I assume this changes the persons attitude towards the advice being given to them and they become defensive.

Taney, we all need to vent occasionally and consult others for advice. What is, or how is the best way to seek GOOD help without interacting with these advisors? Especially, when you actually WANT to be helped from others. Can I just clone you and keep him as a pet? lol Thanks Taney.

Your “LALALALALA” buddy,
Flora

]]> By: Raymond http://www.taneyism.com/2009/07/guiding-through-change/comment-page-1/#comment-30 Raymond Tue, 21 Jul 2009 20:49:05 +0000 http://www.taneyism.com/?p=310#comment-30 Great structure and a great read. Reading this column reminds me a lot of how I've changed perceptions on change and perception. I use to think the glory of making it on your own was greater than succeeding with assistance. But of course, through the natural process of growing up, I've pick up a few things on the way from failure. I look back now and think of the 2 choices. 1.) make it on my own and hope to be praised for it. This comes along with abandonment from close ones as you break off into the unknown and trying to tackle every aspect of what it is you are trying to do. In all, what you hoped for to be a lonely victory can become a much worse demolition of capital, network, and self esteem. Option 2.) Make it with assistance as you are guided through the ever so changing nature of everything that there is and will be in life. Victory in this scenario ends with joyous celebration. Even if you didn't succeed, the guidance, time, and help offered to you by others was just enough to cushion your fall to pick yourself back up and try again with better experience. The next time someone is giving you advice, you should take it (into consideration) with open arms. Now, in a new light, I am being nurtured and mentored in a new business which allows me the freedom to stay persistent and innovative. Why search for primary data when the secondary is offered? Mundo Great structure and a great read. Reading this column reminds me a lot of how I’ve changed perceptions on change and perception. I use to think the glory of making it on your own was greater than succeeding with assistance. But of course, through the natural process of growing up, I’ve pick up a few things on the way from failure. I look back now and think of the 2 choices. 1.) make it on my own and hope to be praised for it. This comes along with abandonment from close ones as you break off into the unknown and trying to tackle every aspect of what it is you are trying to do. In all, what you hoped for to be a lonely victory can become a much worse demolition of capital, network, and self esteem. Option 2.) Make it with assistance as you are guided through the ever so changing nature of everything that there is and will be in life. Victory in this scenario ends with joyous celebration. Even if you didn’t succeed, the guidance, time, and help offered to you by others was just enough to cushion your fall to pick yourself back up and try again with better experience. The next time someone is giving you advice, you should take it (into consideration) with open arms. Now, in a new light, I am being nurtured and mentored in a new business which allows me the freedom to stay persistent and innovative. Why search for primary data when the secondary is offered?

Mundo

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